There are many different reasons that people start writing a blog. Some people just do it for a bit of a creative outlet – maybe to showcase their hobbies and talents (like maybe a fashion, a photography or art blog).
Some people love to tell stories or write poetry, some people are wannabe writers and use their blog as a platform to promote their work hoping for that all exclusive book deal.
And then there are people like me who just write because they find it to be an extremely valuable therapy tool. (That and the fact that raising awareness for autism is one of my passions and I dream that one day people will not just listen but ‘really listen’ and makes changes for a more accepting society).
Recognition is a great thing, but for me – it’s not essential. I sometimes post my blogs to my personal FB page but I deliberately haven’t signed up anywhere to promote my blog to gain more traffic. And the only reason I created a Facebook page for Wonderfully Wired was so that I could have a dedicated place to write about all things autism and give my real life friends a break from constantly having our struggles and triumphs plastered all over their news feeds.
See… I’m considerate like that
I find that writing out my thoughts helps me to properly filter them, centre myself better and focus more clearly. And it also causes me to own and address any wayward emotions that I may have wrongly attached to a particularly difficult situation that I may be going through at any given time.
It really is therapeutic. And if what I write about just happens to help another family going through similar struggles: well it’s a win-win as far as I’m concerned.
Of course there are definitely pros and cons of putting your family’s highs and lows on display so publicly, but I also feel very strongly about creating positive awareness for autism. And to do that – you have to be real or people see through it pretty quickly.
I wrote my post OCD OMG! on Tuesday with a very heavy heart. I was desperate to be heard and felt like I was running out of options. I had hit an emotional brick wall and felt the fight slowly start to drain out of me ,so I wrote about it. As you do when you’re me.
And the response that I got from it was overwhelming to say the least. Not so much from comments on the actual blog post, but by messages sent through Facebook, personal emails, text messages, phone calls and visits. People seemed to come from all directions offering me everything from meals delivered and cyber hugs through to therapist and Doctor’s details and offers to attend appointments with me.
To say I was touched is a gross understatement. To all of you – (you know who you are) …I want to say a huge heartfelt thank you.
Which leads me to my point.
I have a hope that through sharing our story, other families will feel less isolated. Other families will feel less overwhelmed and misunderstood and maybe they will motivated to find the help that they need.
So when I received an email from the WordPress Editors last night informing me that my OCD post is going to be Freshly Pressed in the next few days, I burst into tears.
Not tears of joy at first. I wasn’t exactly elated that I had this prestigious honour bestowed upon me, because it was one of my family’s lowest day so far that is going to be showcased.
I started thinking about all the light-hearted and amusing posts that I had written and wondered why they’d all been bypassed? And why they hadn’t chosen one of the pieces that I have written before that I was particularly proud of?
But the editor wrote these words to me:
…..we really enjoyed it (as much as one can enjoy reading a heartbreaking story) and we know the rest of the WordPress community will too – I know there will be many parents who can relate to your story…..
And with that in mind – I’ve decided to go ahead and let them publish it in the hope that another parent or family can read this and know that they are not alone.
We are all in this together after all

This is so wonderful, I have an autistic child in my class and his family are just the loveliest people but there is not enough support for them. You are right – People need to actually start listening
Thank you for taking the time to visit!
And yes…I am extremely passionate about these kids getting all the support that they deserve
Congrats. I see the confusion that brought. But you did good sharing with others and yes, the idea of something so painful as what your family is going through as helping someone else… well, I hope that brings you some comfort. Again, congratulations!
Thank you for saying that
It was lovely of you to drop by and visit.
Thanks Fi. I read your OCD post the day it came out and honestly, after I read it, I sat there. I didn’t have words. I looked at the “like” button thinking maybe I would push it, to let you know I was there, that I read it and that it touched me, but, like didn’t seem at all right. Not for that post. Not for what you are going through. But I didn’t know what to say. I guess I should have just said what I am thinking now, that I admire your strength, for it takes strength to be honest and say you are struggling. I can’t imagine what you are going through but know that I am here and thinking of you and sending you positive energy. Know, and it is so good that you already do, that you are not alone, so many people care. You taught me that when I don’t think I have the words because I do not have the experience or the advice, that I actually always do have the words because I can always say I care. Your post and this exchange has taught me that. I am glad your openness and your honesty have been rewarded with positive recognition. I wish you and your family all the best. Charlotte
You know what Charlotte? You’re absolutely right! Letting someone know that you care about them and their situation speaks VOLUMES!
I know that when my Dad passed away – I was more hurt by those that avoided me than anything else. There are some situations where there really is NOTHING that anyone could ever say to make it better but letting people know that you at least hear them and that you care is an amazing thing.
And that is exactly what you have done for me here and I’m so thankful to you!
You rock!
You are one of the bravest, most honest women I know. My heart is with you always.
As mine is with you dear friend.
Non contact air hugs coming your way
Tough decision but you’ve made your decision. Just don’t go into the “what if I made the wrong decision” spiral. Looking forward to seeing your name in lights. Congratulations. What an unexpected (but efficient) way to distribute the message of acceptance/tolerance and ‘you’re-not-alone-ness’. Well done.
What? Me go into the “what if’s”? No, surely not!
It’s almost as if you’ve known me my whole life! LOL
And I’m loving the word: ‘you’re-not-alone-ness’
Have you read this? Just saw it in my reader: http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2012/08/15/what-makes-a-post-freshly-press-able-a-recipe-for-attention/ I guess your post hit the right buttons too.
Aha! So THAT’S the secret. The whole lotta pics I used on that post :0
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Wow, Fi! That is so awesome! I have started to read that post a thousand times and never get a minute to finish it! I am going to hop over and read it! Hopefully, my kids will remain in their beds!!
LOL. Your kids are so precious Merri xxx
I am so proud of you for all that you share! You are truly amazing my friend! Sending you and yours hugs and prayers!
Oh Sue, you are equally as amazing. You have done more for raising awareness for bullying that anybody I know! You truly need to be FP’d too.
I’m gonna write to them and let them know!!!!!
Fi,
This is just another example of how amazing you are. Even when you are being complimented, you are thinking of others. I have met so many supportive people through blogging and Twitter that I am happy even if I am never FP’d. The world may be changing slowly, but I believe it is changing and there is infinite hope for our children’s future.
The new headmaster of M’s former school e-mailed when I was on vacation and I plan to respond to him soon. He is open to meeting with us and I believe M will get her apology. I wish understanding had come sooner, but in the long run, I believe she will be okay.
That’s awesome Sue! Keep me posted!
Oh, mama, I have tears in my eyes. I read your FP post and this one, and 10 Things H Wishes You knew.
As a mama with sensory sensitive and quirky kids, one of whom had sensory processing disorder and selective mutism, I totally under the therapeutic value and the support given and exchanged with other parents of our wonderfully wired children.
I was reminded of, in this post, those days when I just broke down and couldn’t hack another SPD related meltdown (I think I’d counted 6 in one day – most of them 15 minutes or less). I often blogged to unload and to focus on the positives and it became a life-preserver at times.
I loved your post “Why me?” And your response, “why NOT me?” Yeah. I hear you big time on that one. I am the best mother for my child even though there have been days when I couldn’t see it. Thanks so much for your sharing. Keep up the good work with your children, and keep your spirits up. You are helping others, and even long after that post has lost it’s immediate popularity, you will find people coming back to it in the future, because while there’s a lot of medical descriptions of what these conditions are like, so few actually describe the actual experience of it, or what it’s like to mother these exceptional and wonderfully wired children.
Best wishes,
Casey
Hi Casey
Thank you so much for you kind words. It’s great to find out that I’m not the only person who finds that writing it out is so helpful.
I’ll be dropping over to check out your blog in the next week as I get through all of these wonderful and encouraging comments
I came here from Fressly Pressed myself. I really hope you find a way to get some help! Please let us know when you do!
Hi there
Thanks for visiting, I will definitely keep you all posted when we make some progress
It was a heartbreaking post Fi, buit one I can absolutely relate to. Which is why I shared it on The Long Push – Longboarding for Autism Awareness Facebook page. This is exactly what we need others to understand, the reality of opur situations.
Hi Chris, Thanks for your continued support of me and my family – it means a lot
I argue it wasn’t your “family’s lowest day so far” that was showcased, but your resolve to never actually reach your family’s lowest day. You aren’t separate from your family and you may have screamed and cried in public, but I marked your words and your family (and you!) are strong and your sons (and daughter) and will live in a better world because you will make it better; better for your kids and better for everyone who learns from you.
That is the nicest comment! Thank you so much for writing that. You’re right….there have been some ‘other’ pretty low days but I know we will continue to get through them
I thought it was inspiring: a very human moment about very human people. Thank you for sharing it.
Hello again, just wanted you to know I have nominated you for the Reader Appreciation Award. If you don’t mind…go to my latest post to read more about it. Congrats and hope it encourages you.
Has the rush finished now? Is it safe for me to comment yet? Will my email be pinging much longer? hehe
I love you! I love that you blog and I love everything that you write.
I happy-dance with you when times are good and cry with you when times are bad.
Also I pray through every post you write because God blessed me by bringing you to my blog to be my friend.
Always praying for you and yours my lovely Fi. God is good! I know that your post will touch all He leads to it.
It’s good to know we are not alone in this journey. More prayers are always welcome too.
Love you and everything about you.
Lees. xxxx {{{{HUG}}}} X
Hi,
I have read many of your posts now that I’ve come to read one of them through freshly pressed. Your efforts as a mother really does inspire me a lot. All your three children are special – never get disheartened. I am sure they will achieve a lot in their life. What else they can do with a wonderful parent like you?
I am from India, and I would recommend you to watch a Hindi movie [I hope you will get a version with subtitles]. The movie’s name is “My Name is Khan”. I believe that the movie will inspire you more than anything. It shows how the values entrenched by a mother help a man [who is affected by aspergers] to be successful in life.
Hope you and your children achieve a lot in your life. The next time I visit the temple, I will pray for your sons and daughter.