To the person who has hurt us,
You do know who you are,
I want to tell you here- right now,
That you have gone too far.
.
I want to let you know that we,
Still love you just the same,
But it hurts me when you judge our ways,
And give me all the blame
.
You know my life is not like yours,
And it will never be,
I do the best with what I have,
So please don’t bad mouth me
.
My children know that they come first,
And have my full attention,
So forgive me now, if you’ve to wait,
And I am not perfection
.
I feel that you just inward look,
And make it all about you,
But in THIS house, we’re not that way,
You never seem to approve
.
I’m sorry if you feel that I,
Have been a dreadful pain,
I have no time for childish rants,
It’s puts me off my game
.
My days are filled with ASDs
And everything that includes,
So give me grace when I am not,
Always in the happiest moods
.
I’m sorry that I sometimes get,
All tense and non compliant,
But all this stress has turned my woes,
Into a towering giant.
.
I’ve never claimed to be immune,
To snapping under pressure,
But bringing up the past to us,
Just brings us such displeasure.
.
So instead of focusing on yourself,
Why not offer to shoulder our burden,
And walk a mile in different shoes,
Before just spurting your poison.
.
I work so hard but still you want,
To criticize me and complain,
You won’t believe in ASDs
So it’s always just the same…
.
I’ve tried to tell you all I can,
But you don’t want to listen,
So saying that I am “not right”
Has been your latest mission
.
If I’m “not right” then why do I,
Do most of this myself?
And manage to raise gorgeous kids,
With barely any help?
.
The things that you’ve complained about,
Weren’t done to tick you off,
My heart was right, and full of love,
But now….I’ve had enough
.
I can’t go on pretending that,
Everything is now okay,
I’ve tried my best – but it’s not enough,
I’ve nothing left to say
.
I truly hope that you get to,
The place where you find peace,
I pray that God will bless you lots,
And that this tension now will cease…..
Hi sweets. Who ever that is directed to I really hope that they take the time to understand. For some ,it is just too much to fathom. Take care. xxxx
Thank you sweet Dearna xxx
Hello my precious friend,
I am so glad you shared this poem, I am keeping this in prayer I know how much things like this hurt.
People we love who can’t accept and love our kids for who they are hurt us the most.
When they refuse to see ASD it’s like a blow, I have relatives that won’t even let me, my dad or *CAL into their home.
Unless we all decide not to be Autistic, like we can actually turn who we are off.
When we are critised for all we do it’s like twisting the knife.
I get this with certain people too and it hurts so much.
I read this post the other day and it helped me to know I’m not the only one.
After my Mom died I really needed support from a Motherly figure and didn’t get it at all.
http://flappinessis.com/2011/12/05/10-things-i-wish-my-m-i-l-hadnt-said-to-me-about-my-autistic-child-and-the-one-thing-i-wish-she-had/
Love you Fi, keep being you. YOU and Mr Patient are the perfect parents for your 3 kids.
Lees. xxxx {{{{HUG}}}} X
Typo… *criticised* and I think my comment is awaiting moderation.
xxxx
Yep, it got spammed because you used Mr Patients real name! giggle giggle
Oooopsi sorry, slap my hand, naugty typing too fast and not thinking quick enough.
It’s all those video games you know Fi.. *wink wink, giggle giggle. X Mwah
Very deep and very well composed hugs and kisses
Fi,
I love your expression of words and I am glad for you to be able to get them out. You are a lovely woman and a very inspirational person and mother. Never forget that. There is no right in the eyes of those who do not accept or try to gain perspective about another person’s life. I shard a quote the other day on fb that I think may be quite fitting here.
“If you just learn a single trick, Scout, you’ll get along a lot better with all kinds of folks. You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view . . . until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” ~ Atticus Finch
Prayers and blessings showered all over you, God’s raindrops that tap you with giggles and smiles through hurtful times.
Angel
Well said Fi….so many people just really don’t understand – in my world some of these people are close relatives. I have no more patience for their lack of understanding and criticism. I find myself keeping the door closed to them because it is just to difficult to tolerate their ignorance. I love how you wove that into a poem.
Hugs my friend. You are an amazing mom, and I hope you are able to find peace with this situation.
Thank-you for sharing this. I can sadly relate.