I mean REALLY confused.
Last night, I threw out all the visual cards in absolute disgust.
I figured that they were absolutely useless in this house. And you know what?
We had an absolutely AWESOME day!
It was SO different to “normal” routine too.
The kids and I drove for an hour and a half North to meet my mum and my sister’s two daughters at a shopping centre that is halfway between here and her place.
My sister is working and Mum is staying at her house to mind the girls during the holidays.
I had a (wait for it…) SILENT car trip up there?
HUH? I could hardly believe that these were MY kids!
And the four hours that we were there in that noisy, crowded and busy shopping centre were an absolute pleasure!
At lunchtime, we sat in the food-court and halfway through our meal, a dance troupe started performing a half hour of dance routines with LOUD music RIGHT NEXT TO OUR TABLE!!
There were even tap dancer with their loud tappety tappety tap shoes banging on the stage.
And you know what?
Harley and Lucas turned their chairs around and watched it ALL.
NO visual cards to prepare them for this spontaneous event, NO forewarning about the entire day and it was so damn noisy that I kept nervously looking at both mum and the boys ready for a meltdown to occur.
It never did!
After lunch the kids played in the play centre there and when it was time to leave, everybody hugged and kissed and the kids hopped back into the car for another PEACEFUL drive home!
We got stuck in road works and it took us almost 2 hours but still. PEACE!
I just don’t get it?
What really surprised me was that everyone that commented on yesterday’s post Visual Pfft all said that visuals don’t work for themand their children either.
And a couple of you actually said that the days that you DON’T plan are the ones that go the best of all??
I’ve had it drummed into me continually and read it in a lot of aspergers info that children with ASDs need visual aids to reduce anxiety and help them to feel more in control.
So why then do most parent’s find the opposite?
Is this just a big farce developed to create MORE stress in us parents who already walk a fine line?
Or is someone going to write to me and suggest that maybe I haven’t implemented these visual cards properly?
If you are – then kindly send that thought to ALL the people that commented and tell them that they are wrong too. Thx
In case you’re wondering, the visuals I made for our upcoming beach holiday on Friday have been filed away under “USELESS” for now.
I might take them, I might not.
I’ve quickly realised today that -just when you think you have aspergers figured out , it comes up and bites you on the butt and you realise that you know NOTHING!!!
And whilst I am SO thankful for a smooth and event free ENJOYABLE day and don’t really want to be a negative Nelly - I am feeling a little uneasy.
When you’re parenting a child(ren) with and ASD, you never ever know what’s coming next….