This morning after dropping the kids at school. Lucas and I headed off to the Doctor because I needed a new prescription for my asthma medication.
So we sat waiting for almost 2 hours in a waiting room full of sick people for a 2 minute conversation and a piece of paper.
Honestly – I find this ridiculous that we have to waste all this time for something so simple. Meanwhile , the people that actually were sick had to wait even longer. Doesn’t make sense.
Anyway – whingefest over!
While we waited, I entertained myself by people watching (as you do) and it was really the only thing I could do since the most recent magazine available had Heath Ledger on the cover with the words : “Tragedy takes Heath too soon” so it was a little out of date!
I sat there looking around at the crowd that was also waiting and tried really hard not to notice the gorgeous 2 yr old girl chatting in full sentences with her mother – or the 3 yr old boy “actually” playing with his little sister.
The there was a young boy who I assume was about 8 or 9 who was obviously too unwell for school, sitting next to his father and carried on a conversation with him whilst eye contacting and body and facial reading AND reacting appropriately with his Dad the entire time.
It was also hard to not see the other people waiting in the surgery oohing and aahing over the cute little girl’s antics, laughing as the siblings playfully teased each other and the disapproving looks I was getting as my little Lucas sat there transfixed by his Nintendo not aware of anything else that was in the room.
I’m sure that people wondered why a mother would allow such anti-social behaviour from an almost 4 yr old.
And a couple of times I asked Lucas to sit properly - “no ‘W’ sitting” I gently told him, and I got strange and questioning glances.
And Lucas would stop playing every few minutes to stroke the ribbon on his “puppy” that is now a tattered knot and then go straight back to the game.
But the entire time I was determined.
I was determined to let my little boy just ‘be’.
I was determined to appear unfazed by other people’s stares.
And I was also determined that I wasn’t going to offer any “explanations” as to why he was so noticeably different to the other children waiting with their parents.
Because frankly. It was no-one else’s business! I just stared back until people became uncomfortable and looked away.
Besides, who of them would truly understand that the Nintendo was what made it possible for us to even sit for 2 long boring hours anyway!

you and your kids are great and wonderful so what if they play games who cares what other people do or think?
Oh Fiona, I know this so well…..I live this….For the record I think his “w” sitting is really cute….
Is the “w” sitting bad for him??
Hi Shivon,
It is cute I agree! But my OT told me it was really bad for him and she told me to go and read this website:
http://www.pediatricservices.com/parents/pc-22.htm
so I’m trying desperately to stop him!
I get some kind of perverse satisfaction these days staring back at people until they are so uncomfortable they look away.I’m sure (before C’s dx) I too judged peoples kids.Now I always think you never know what is going on behind the ‘bad’ behaviour.And well done Lucas, C would have been bouncing off the walls after 20 mins!!Hmmmm, maybe a Nintendo is in our future.
I like that!- Perverse satisfaction! hehehhee
Aspie teen has his Nintendo DS glued to his hand whenever we go out, he’s actually identified it as a way to block out other people all on his own (apart from being addicted to the games lol).
Hahaha! A good way to block out people. LOVE IT!
yes, Sitting in the w position is really bad for kids hip joints. A lot of preschools and primary schools spend a lot of time trying to encourage their kids not to sit like that…
The nintendo ds is great for us too. My boy will wait for longer if he can focus on it instead of everything else happening around him. The other thing that we are now finding even better than the ds is an IPod. My son was bought an IPod for his birthday last year, and this is the best thing ever and is used even more than the ds. (He has the ipod touch) You can download music to it, videos and games. This means that as with the ds he can lock himself into the world of games, or even just watch a movie… Very helpful, especially if they have a particular movie that they like to repeatedly watch…
Good on you Fi. Just a different perspective though, Maybe they weren’t looking due to his behaviour? maybe they were looking at him because he is 4(and looks younger) and has a DS? no issue here you know as mine have them…just a thought.
Yeah probably. But you know me…..Mrs Paranoid!
I know you and I don’t think you are all that paranoid, they obviously were looking i just offered another reason for the staring
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But I’m still paranoid LMAO!